Perhaps to understand stress better and begin to live with less stress it may help to know what kind of things that may cause stress both at Home and at Work.
changes to duties
job insecurity/zero hours contracts
changes in the organisation
conflicts with co-workers/bosses
being passed over for promotion
lack of support
lack of training
in unsuitable job
job too physical for age/ability
caring for a sick/elderly family member/friend.
controlling family member/partner
going on holiday
exams at school/university/work/driving test
social media i.e. Facebook etc.
over crowded/poor accommodation
location of home
Dealing with a few of these at the same time can become very stressful.
So, now that there is a sort of list of what causes stress we could look at how stress shows itself in us so that we can recognise and take action to act upon stress?
Body, mind, behaviours and habits
Over thinking, worrying about the future (what if?) / feeling disconnected
Tight chest / heart palpitations / worrying about health
Hyperventilation / shortness of breath / loss of appetite
Eating too much / nausea / profuse sweating/ headaches / sore or tense muscles / stomach cramps
All or nothing thinking / not sleeping
Avoidance of tasks / disqualifying the positives / procrastination
Uncontrollable worries/fears/phobias / need constant reassurance
Gambling, smoking or drinking excessively / depression
Loss of libido or addicted to sex
Loss of confidence / low self-esteem / low tolerance of others
Argumentative / aggression
Nail biting / hair pulling
Irritable Bowel Syndrome / Tinnitus
High Blood Pressure
Thoughts about suicide / Irrational Fears
Compromised immunity /non specific pain
Weight gain / Loss of weight
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
Lack of energy / choosing social isolation
Loss of interest in hobbies, personal care, conversation
Exercise/sports swimming, running, walking, tennis etc.
Change of diet to reduce caffeine, sugar, eat better food etc.
Say NO, be assertive rather than aggressive
More time with friends and loved family members to encourage release of oxytocin (Family Hugs)
Create a Chill List i.e. things you can do in 5, 15, 30, 60 minutes that make you feel better
Join a club. Take up a hobby or return to an old hobby.
Join a yoga class.
Take extra time over personal care and self presentation.
Make a list of people you CAN talk with about your life. Stop procrastinating.
Write down your things to be thankful for and a stress list and work on one at a time.
Listen to your favourite music.
Learn controlled breathing that reduces blood pressure and releases oxytocin.
Develop a positive attitude. Set limits with others/boundaries.
Manage time better, keep a diary.
Make an appointment to talk with your employer.
Change your employment.
Acceptance of things outside your control.
Enjoy some complementary therapy such as Reiki, Reflexology, Massage, Indian Head Massage.
Sometimes it is not enough to try on our own to work with our stress. When your anxiety levels have become a problem that is stopping you from doing the usual things in your life, or making it difficult for you to do usual things like go to work, go shopping, answer the phone, open mail that has arrived, go out in public then help and support from Renee is on hand. She will use her skills as a Clinical Hypnotherapist to look for a solution within your lifestyle and capacity to enable change to happen.
When stress has been building up in a person’s life over a long period of time, sometimes years, it is usual for a client to work with Renee over 3 to 6 sessions (longer time between sessions as change happens). Renee will be guided by you and how you feel, so it is hard to tell how many sessions you will require. Your feedback to Renee at the beginning of every session is important so that together improvement can be monitored and measured and therapy can be flexible to fit your needs.
Everyone is different and sometimes change happens quickly, sometimes slowly. Renee will encourage you to use all the tools provided so that you can achieve lasting change as quickly as is possible Hypnotherapy can help with anxiety, as we work with the ‘unconscious’ mind to change the anxious feelings in those specific situations that make you feel anxious. These can then be replaced with feelings of confidence and control. Hypnotherapy for anxiety can also help you to begin thinking more rationally and positively on a day to day basis, these thoughts send signals to the body of calm and control, so you feel more relaxed throughout your day.
Through hypnotherapy you can discover your own inner resources. Hypnosis (implanting powerful suggestions of confidence and building self-esteem to help you cope better with your day to day life) is a self help tool that you can use to help yourself get better and better at dealing with stress every day. Renee will help you to set S.M.A.R.T. goals where appropriate in addition to using hypnosis, breathing exercises EFT, NLP and other stress busting techniques. Usually you can expect to begin to take control of your stress in the first few sessions however, you are unique and everyone’s stress response/anxiety is different, so Renee works to find the best solution to helping you to deal with your anxiety. Her goal is to help you as quickly as possible to manage on your own in as few sessions as is safe and possible. Renee will be guided by you and how you feel so it is hard to tell how many sessions you will require. Your feedback to Renee at the beginning of every session is important so that together improvement can be monitored and measured and therapy can be flexible to fit your needs.
N.B. During an initial consultation Renee may choose to ask the client to seek clinical medical advice from their primary care provider before commencing using hypnosis and with the client’s consent write to the G.P. before beginning therapy.